We are all searching for this simple notion of happiness and for some it is rather difficult to find it. Sometimes it is the situation that we are in or simply the people that we are surrounded by make us feel miserable. In other cases, it is just a lot more complicated. There is probably no magic solution to find happiness or at least I still have not figured it out but I can tell you that there are three simple steps which can enhance your general mood. Of course, it is never limited to only those three but I think it is a good start and a healthy way of going forward.
Rule #1: Surround yourself with happy people:
One study has found that happiness tends to be correlated in social networks. When you are happy all the friends around you have 25% higher chance of being happy themselves. Your closest friends are more likely to be happier then the ones who interact with you less. The study called this three degrees of separation: a person’s happiness was associated with the level of happiness of their friends’ friends’ friends. So it is actually as simple as being surronded by just happy people who are always positive and which then make us happy. Happiness is contagious we do tend to uplift our spirits when we are around positive people. Not only we mimic the smile of the people around us but their positive energy will have a lasting effect on our mood.
Rule #2: See a positive side in everything:
The brains of happy people are tuned to notice and enjoy the positives in life that may pass others by, according to research that may explain why some folk seem to go about wearing rose-tinted spectacles .Happy people notice and respond more strongly to joyful objects and events in the world. It can be a difficult exercise but we need to keep reminding ourselves about every positive thing in ever situation and person.I
Rule #3: Keep your network small :
British anthropologist Robin Dunbar’s earlier research claimed that people limit the number of real relationships they have in complex societies, because the part of our brains that cope with language and personal interaction cannot deal with any more. Dunbar’s number represents the maximum number of personal connections that one single person can hold at any given time, which is 150. Take a good look at the amount of your Facebook Friends and other virtual friends and now try to figure out the actual engagement that you have with them. I am sure soon you can easily half what you have. When we push our limits to have more then we can handle we are emotionaly stressing ourselves. The less is more, less is better. If we leave aside the popularity game, unfriending and decluttering your social networks is a great start to make the most of your friends.
Keep your network small and happy .